Cary Wade Showalter
September 9, 1950-September 11, 2007
****This page is Dedicated to Cary Wade Showalter, My Father. He loved his fishing, and loved his life. He will be missed by us all as he touched us all in a way only he could do. His life, taken to soon from the acts of another ****
9-16-07 Some may be wondering about my choice of music for this page. Well its a memory of his I remember. To me its represents something. The Day Ronald Regan was shot, I was at my Grandma Showalters house. My cousin Scott and I were on the floor in front of the TV playing with trucks. My Dad was in the kitchen with I believe my Uncle Bill, playing guitar and singing. And this was the song he was singing. I dont know why but thats one of my favorite memories.
9-16-07 I am going to keep adding to this site on a daily basis. Please feel free to come by. I am going to be adding a chat room with-in the next day or so. So maybe all of us that find our way here to this little site can get together one night. Since there are people all over the united states that knew him we can all plan a night and share memories.
9-16-07 I will be continuing to add content. I was going to write a poem in this space for my dad but I think I will save that for another day. I came across it and thought..yup thats dad.
Not In Vein
If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain:
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.
Emily Dickinson (1830-1886) Amherst, Massachusetts
9-17-07 Well this was a birthday I could have done without. Found some pictures of Dad with my son when he was first born. Will get them posted shortly. Talked about him alot. Went back to work for the first day since I was told. It helps. Gets my mind on other things. The saying "so much to do so little time" never rings truer then it does right now for me. I also found another link that I just added. Its a bit more graphical of a video. I truly thank everyone for their support
9-19-07 I was at the funeral home today, finalizing everything. I was sitting there talking to Loren, the Funeral Director (whom I owe a huge thanks to) and we were talking about Dads Service and whats going to happen. After quite a period of time I mentioned him getting transported. Loren stopped me and said "as a mtter of fact your dad is here" as he turned around and pointed to a box. So I saw Dad sitting there. And he sat there and eavesdropped on his service arrangments. Anyway I wanted to let everyone know that he is home.
Also I am flying down to Florida to where this happened on Friday. I should be there by noon. I am going to get all the answers I can and try to bring any personal effects I can get together back home with me. I will return on Sunday Afternoon. I will update this from down there if I find anything out. Other then that I will see you on Monday.
9-23-07 I just got back from Florida today. I would like to thank Jim and all his co-workers for such a warm receptions and their kind words about Dad. I wish I would have been able to spend more time with them but unfortunately it ws all a little to overwhelming and I just needed time to myself. I will be back down there and I will get to spend more time with everyone. I cant say I feel better but I do feel more knowlegable. I stood in the room, in the spot my Father took his last breath. That was one of the hardest things I have ever done. Do see his blood still all over, to smell it throughout the apartment. It was not easy. I did retrieve several personal items some for memories and some informational. I have just got done writing the Eulogy for his Service tomorrow. My sister will be standing by my side as I read it. Tomorrow will be a hard day. Tomorrow will be the day we say goodbye to my Father.
9-24-07 We buried my Father today. It was hard. We all had our chance to say goodbye. It was a nice service and a nice way to pay our respects. I thank all of you who were there. It meant alot to me. He is resting peacefully. My sister and I both gave him a kiss told him goodbye and we left him with God.
